When Spirituality Feels at Odds With Your Humanness

Have you ever had a thought like this?

“If I were really a spiritual person then I would….” OR “If I had deeper faith then I wouldn’t…”


You can have deep spiritual faith AND be deeply angry, sad or hurt. Your spirituality doesn’t have to be at odds with your humanness.

When my 3.5 year old golden doodle, Luna, lost her battle to kidney disease on March 6, 2019, I felt levels of sadness that I had never experienced before. I also felt anger and guilt. I felt cheated. I felt she was cheated. “She’s too young. This wasn’t fair.”

To some, she was just a dog, but for me, she was my first real responsibility as a caretaker since my husband and I got her when she was 8 weeks old. She was there through the very worst of times when my husband and I broke off our engagement and I moved out, all the way to the very happiest of times when we got married in July 2018. She was at the center of our relationship and she brought us endless amounts of pure joy. She was the life of the party and the best off-leash hiking buddy.

So seeing such a light literally die out, was deeply traumatizing. Taking care of her sickness day-in-and-day-out was deeply traumatizing. Witnessing her lose 20 pounds was traumatizing. Having moments of hope break your heart was deeply traumatizing.

There will be times when you are in a negative head space, but that doesn’t inherently mean you’re not spiritual or lack faith because you can’t bring a smile to your face.

This is a lesson I am investigating within myself and unpacking all the shoulding, sadness and guilt surrounding my human emotions and feelings which at times feel at odds with how I think a spiritual person would/should act. 

Shouldn’t I be more accepting? Non-attachment, right?

Shouldn’t I know that I’ll see her again someday? 

Shouldn’t I know she’s still with me in spirit and let that be enough? 

Or maybe for you it’s…

If I had more faith then I wouldn’t be so disappointed that I didn’t get that job.

If I were really a spiritual person then I wouldn’t be jealous.

If I were more spiritual then I wouldn’t be so angry about this diagnosis.

The short answer. Your feelings are just as valid as your faith. Notice them.

As I’m sitting here writing this at a coffee shop, a gentlemen lovingly takes care of his paraplegic son, and I can’t help but assume that at times he has had these kinds of thoughts. But the fact of the matter is, we ARE spiritual beings having a human experience.

As spiritual beings, we have the power to give ourselves grace in moments of humanness. This is essential to liberating ourselves.

Moksha. Moksha. Moksha. {freedom, liberation}

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Self Care Spotlight

Podcast Episode #79

Have Faith in Your Fears

Have Faith in Your Fears

Whoever said that you should be fearless is a liar. 

Fear is innate to humans when we are in survival mode, and it is essential when we are about to do something bigger than we have ever done before. When you're about to grow and expand into who you were truly meant to be. 

Fear is brick and mortar.


The idea of fear being a bad thing is when you enact faithless fear, and the opposite is when you unleash and honor faith-based fear.

Fear that is faithless is daunting and scary and down right terrifying.

It renders you stagnant. 

It's giving up when you're just about to have a breakthrough.

It's settling for doing what you're good at, instead of what you love. 

It's staying in a relationship that is safe because you don't think it can get any better. It's lack of superpowers enacted; it's lack of Trust.

Fear that is faith-based, however, is life changing. 

This fear moves us ahead in life, it faces forward, it brings us closer to our Truth. 

You are afraid of the unknown.

But you are secure in knowing that everything is going to work out.

It's standing at the edge of a cliff and someones told you that your dreams lay at the bottom, all dressed up and waiting for you to join the party. 

All you have to do is leap. 

Easy, right? No. 

But easier because you know the Universe is supporting you and nudging you along. Because you have Faith. 

Fearless? No. Human? Yes. Afraid? Yes. Strong? Yes. Trusting? Yes. 

Respect your fears and infuse them with faith.

*Piece originally written for The Daily Guru 2015


Courage and Fear are two sides of the same coin, so to enact our Courage, we must choose Faith over Fear.

JD Journal Prompt: When it comes to my Faith, I know this to be true...

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